“New History”
is named after a song by Andy Davis
[a sly and soulful singer/songwriter]
whose protagonist has barely survived a bad breakup
and now finds himself unsure whether or not he should embark on a new romance.
He doesn’t know if he’s ready to trust his feelings
and created what he calls “new history.”
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I love the idea of “new history”
All we’re really doing is creating new history,
trying to learn from past mistakes,
but inevitably making new ones that will haunt us in the future.
–– learn from mistakes; obtaining good and move forward ––
The past, it would seem, is inescapable.
Everything we are today is the product of who we were yesterday, last month, last year:
The choices we made
The red lights we ran
The things said and maybe shouldn’t have
The people we loved, we didn’t.
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How to make peace with the past?
This has become a concern to me.
Picture of Andy Davis
Credit
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我自己有一个很简单的，关于生死的修行方法：
每天睡觉时就想，今天睡着了，明天不会再起来了。
这样想就可以睡得很好，
因为想到明天没有什么事干扰我，
就会放下今天的一切忧伤，
甚至放下以前的一切忧伤，
就不会对这个世界有所计较，
也就不会想到有人欠我一万元，
打车去向他要一万元，
要一万元回来做什么？
明天就要死了，
躺下来安心地休息吧！
明天可能就死了，
我们的死就好像睡眠一样。
有人想：“明天就会死，这样太消极了！”
不会消极，明天醒来，张开眼睛赶快爬起来，
因为还没有死，还有一天可活。
如果我们珍惜每一天，知道生命是无常的，
就不会顶撞父母，把爱放在一天里，就不会和亲人争吵，
会珍惜和孩子、同事在一起的。
若讨厌的同事坐在你旁边，
想到明天可能会离开这个世界，
就不会那么讨厌他。
若想到还有很长的时间要和他做同事，才会讨厌。
如果每天都做一个生死的观想，
就没有什么可以讨厌的了，
这样就可以每天都好好的睡着，
第二天又可以充满精神醒过来。
"How heavy is this glass of water?"
Answers called out ranged from 20g to 500g.
The lecturer replied,
"The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long you try to hold it."
“If I hold it for a minute, that's not a problem.
If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my right arm
If I hold it for a day, you'll have to call an ambulance
In each case, it's the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes."
He continued,
"And that's the way it is with stress management.
If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won't be able to carry on."
"As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again.
When we're refreshed, we can carry on with the burden."
“SO before you return home tonight, put the burden of work down
Don't carry it home.
You can pick it up tomorrow.
Whatever burdens you're carrying now, let them down for a moment if you can.
Relax; pick them up later after you've rested.
Life is short. Enjoy it!"
Some ways of dealing with the burdens of life:
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Accept that some days you're the pigeon, and some days you're the statue.
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Always keep your words soft and sweet, just in case you have to eat them.
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Always read stuff that will make you look good if you die in the middle of it.
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Drive carefully. It's not only cars that can be recalled by their maker.
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If you can't be kind, at least have the decency to be vague.
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If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probably worth it.
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It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply to serve as a warning to others.
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Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time, because then you won't have a leg to stand on.
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Nobody cares if you can't dance well. Just get up and dance.
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Since it's the early worm that gets eaten by the bird, sleep late.
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The second mouse gets the cheese.
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When everything's coming your way, you're in the wrong lane.
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Birthdays are good for you. The more you have, the longer you live.
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You may be only one person in the world, but you may also be the world to one person..
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We could learn a lot from crayons. Some are sharp, some are pretty and some are dull. Some have
weird names, and all are different colors, but they all have to live in the same box.
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A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.
